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What Qualities Make A Good Escort?

There is a price to pay for being a public (happy and free) escort. Relationships are hard (mainly because I don’t want one), it can be a lonely and isolating life, and judgment still exists.  

I understand my choices are hard to understand, but it’s complex. I am who I am, I knew this life was for me, and while I would love to give it all up and become a normal person with a normal job (God forbid), I can’t even if I tried, and nor do I want to. And someone else’s judgment and opinion does not pay my bills. 

It’s 2021, the world has changed and women can do what the F they want with their lives and bodies, and they can write, sing, dance about it should they do so please. 

And I am certainly not alone. 

There are a lot of women, normal, professional career women who book me for mentoring, who nervously sit on my sofa with a mug of green tea and my dog nestled up the them, confessing it’s a path they secretly desire for themselves. 

The kinds of women I have met include doctors,  lawyers, bankers, TV personalities, school mums, a woman from the ATO, flight attendants, journalists; even a woman who was on five boards and spoke four languages. The doctors tell me they stick enough fingers up bottoms to know the physical aspect wouldn’t bother them, the lawyers tell me they are sick of office politics and long hours, a few school mums said they crave a secret life and a more flexible lifestyle, and the woman from the ATO told me she was absolutely no way going to pay tax on the money she would earn as an escort. 

And they tell me the same thing time and time again: they are sick of dating/their husbands, having had a nasty divorce, or a string of failed relationships, and most importantly they say, they ‘love sex.’ 

The loving sex line always makes me smile. I gave them the same response. “Don’t do this job for the sex, because you will have more sex in your public life than professional one.”

If you’ve been following me for a while, you would know that escorting isn’t about sex. It’s about connection, and it’s about compassion. SO what makes a good escort? (In my opinion only): 

  1. You are a good listener. Escorting dates are not about you. While clients are keen to get to know you, they really don’t want to hear about your boyfriend problems, health issues and family problems. They are paying for a service. The service is about you giving them what they need: mainly a safe non-judgmental space. It’s about them, not you. My skills as a journalist come in very handy; I know what questions to ask to ensure the client feels comfortable and I know how to listen. 
  2. You are comfortable with your body. Guess what – in the ten years I have been Samantha, and with all the women I have met in the industry, not one of them has had a perfect body. They’ve been curvy, wrinkly, they have cellulite, lumps and bumps and so on (myself included). But there is one thing they have in common: confidence. They love their bodies (or make peace with them), and they’re lights on women. And that’s the number one thing I think makes you good in bed – you love your body, because a man will no matter what. Despite what people think, your confidence soars as an escort. 
  3. You genuinely like men. Don’t do this job if you hate men or if you’re seeking revenge on men or a man, and just doing it for the money even though the sight of a man makes you cringe. Not only will this be soul-destroying for you, and I would worry about your mental health, but a man can sense it a mile off. I love men, I make no secret of loving men, I feel very comfortable with men, and I genuinely enjoy their company and think they’re funny. Ive had more issues in my life with women than I have men, who I believe are pretty simple (in an endearing way). They are always quietly terrified when they walk through the door, which makes me love them even more. If you spend the whole date hating them, or if their touch makes your skin crawl, and you just want to take the money and run, then get another job. Your mental health will suffer big time.